November 2, 2009

To Vaccinate Or Not To Vaccinate

I've been going over and over the latest debate, the H1N1 (or high-nie as my father calls it) vaccine and whether or not to have my boys get it. To vaccinate or not to vaccinate, that is the question moms are judged by this season. And if you're an idiot and decide to vaccinate, do you get the mist or the shot? Be clear, I'm not saying you're an idiot for getting the vaccine but apparently I am for even considering it according to some dumbass on Twitter. Obviously, I'm crushed... fucking douche.

If you've read this blog very long at all you know a few things. First, Aidan has the potential to make anything difficult and in doing so making me crazy. Second, I go to great lengths to avoid those situations unless I'm way low on blog fodder. Third, those lengths I speak of are sometimes, how shall I say this, borderline unethical - although some of you secretly wish you had the balls to do it. And fourth, unless you have taken over responsibility as Aidan's mom for a minimum of a week and therefore have the ever so slightest clue what you are talking about, I don't give a shit what you think about it. And I'm totally talking to you, Anonymous, you judgemental bitch.

Aidan is probably not going to get vaccinated. Not for H1N1 or the seasonal flu. This day is still vivid in my memory a year and a half later and there was a similar scene when he was tested for TB before starting school this year. I'm still not sure those traumas were worth it. The school is providing the H1N1 shot free and I signed the form saying Aidan could be vaccinated. I also attached a note that said Good Luck. Look, I want him vaccinated I simply don't have the resolve to physically go through getting him vaccinated. And the way I look at it, if he gets sick, well, he's quiet and sweet and still and calm when he's sick and how can 3 days of that be all bad?


*Disclaimer: Do not assume I am callous and awful and that I don't know that so many children have died from H1N1 this year. I'm not making light of that at all. I know that loss, there's nothing light about it.

PS Mere hours after I wrote this post Aidan was confirmed to have H1N1. Karma is swift with me. Awesome.

16 comments:

Debra said...

Whoa! that was quick. I think my niece has it too. She was sick at work Saturday. They have had a couple cases in the area. They think she has it too. I picked her up for my sister, so who knows. I think Aidan will be fine. I thought the real concern was for those with compromised immunes systems, babies, and the elderly? It is not so much the dead virus in the shot that worries me but what they use as the carriers for these vaccines that bother me.
Well I hope Aidan is okay. THey were giving them out at the plant where my husband works too, but he said no.

Debra said...

Whoa! that was quick. I think my niece has it too. She was sick at work Saturday. They have had a couple cases in the area. They think she has it too. I picked her up for my sister, so who knows. I think Aidan will be fine. I thought the real concern was for those with compromised immunes systems, babies, and the elderly? It is not so much the dead virus in the shot that worries me but what they use as the carriers for these vaccines that bother me.
Well I hope Aidan is okay. THey were giving them out at the plant where my husband works too, but he said no.

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh... I am so sorry for Aidan.. I hope he's feeling better soon.. It's such a nasty flu.. And I hope your whole household doesn't come down with it, Mom's don't get sick days..
And whoever anonymous is, she can go fuck herself, she probably doesn't even have kids!
Feel better soon Aidan!!! And you take care Sissy..

The Red Headed Mama said...

Ack, I hope he's better quickly!! (and quiet and calm while he's sick. hehe)

For what it's worth, we don't do flu shots. Regular or H1N1. It doesn't really bother me if other people do, we just don't.

Anonymous said...

Ugh! I hope Aiden gets better quickly!!
I'm not getting my kids (or myself) the flu shot. Not this year. Not ever before.

Anonymous said...

wow. hope he gets well soon.

Stacie's Madness said...

and him testing positive for the virus before vaccination is exactly WHY I'm not vaccinating...i would bet, my kids have already been exposed. So, rollin with the punches, or puking if it comes our way...AS it comes our way....

Hope he is surviving (you as well)

Nocturnal Queen said...

I hope Aidan gets better soon.

My mom wants me to get my kids the H1N1 shot, but I keep hearing that more people have died from the regular flu this season than H1N1.

Izzy 'N Emmy said...

Aww, I am sorry to hear Aidan got sick. I sincerely hope he's better soon. *hugs*

texlahoma said...

I'm very anti-shot. Have you ever seen a shot pushed like this before?
I've been around for a long time and I never have, especially for a flu that is milder than the regular seasonal flu. Something isn't right about it.
On the other hand, I'm not a doctor nor a nurse or anything like that.

Brightfish said...

Hope he feels better soon--for both your sakes. I also hope you can get that medicine in him soon--or at least some benedryl! Good luck! -Sunny

CynthiaK said...

So sorry to hear Aidan has it. I hope it's a very mild case and he gets over it quickly.

I'm going against the grain here it seems, given your other commenters, but we are all five of us getting the vaccine this week at our doc's office. It took us lots of research and discussion to come to the decision, but we're ready now. Up here in Canada, there is a major shortage of vaccines and the line-ups for clinics are insane.

It's such a difficult and personal decision. But, with some friends who have battled it intensely (and someone we know who lost the battle) we are pretty keen to get the shots.

I'm sure Aidan will be totally fine, as most have been. He's a tough kid.

Bill and Lorie Shewbridge said...

So sorry for you and Aidan!! I know how little boys (and big boys) can be when they get sick. Hope the rest of your family stays healthy. Here is a great resource for you:

http://cdc.gov/h1n1flu/sick.htm

It is a real personal decision regarding the H1N1 vaccine, but having worked in the medical field for many years (prior to my disability), I am planning to get vaccinated and so is The Hubs as soon as our MD gets it in his office. We have both already gotten the seasonal flu vaccine, and managed to stay healthy, so far. I think it is the media, and other unreliable sources that spread the fear, but that is MY OPINION. We all need to do what is the best for our families.
I have always trusted the CDC, and if you want to, you can learn a lot from them on their website:
cdc.gov
Off my soapbox, now. :-)

Michelle said...

I love your P.S. "Karma was swift with me." I suppose it is neither here nor there now.

I have vaccinated my kids against seasonal flu for many years past with no side effects and am planning to this year. I have so far only found a clinic that gave adults shots so I have got one not my kids.

I MAY also get them H1N1 but to tell you the truth I think B and FiFi already had it since they had a "flu like ilness" that ended up in pnuemonia as H1N1 has been doing in kids, especially my child with asthma and my kid who catches everything illness that comes within a mile of her. Wyn didn't get sick at all but she never does. When I asked the doctor she said vaccinate them anyways. I think we have already been exposed.

To be honest the news stories of children dying scare the crap out of me even though I know kids die from seasonal flu each year and the news doesn't even cover it.

Bottom line: I am still on the fence. Some of it will depend how difficult it is to obtain. So far no luck in our area.

Night Owl Mama said...

DID I ever tell you we so need to be best friends. I love the way your right and you always crack me up > I want to crawl through the computer screen and give you a high five!

SOrry to hear your baby has H1N1 hope he gets well QUICK!

Ordie O. said...

Goddamn, girl. You are funny.